Bridal Tips for not letting someone else’s foolishness ruin your wedding day.
You have planned for this day and no one knows more than you how much time and effort you have put into this day. After attending, planning and hearing so many different wedding stories I have to share some of these important tips.
Ring bearer & Flower girls – some incentive for doing a great job (a coloring book, their favorite doll, etc.). The flower girl should know that she is to nicely toss the pedals not keeping them all in her basket or get ting rid of them in one shot. Practice using colorful tissue paper (cut into pedal like shapes). If children aren’t attending the wedding ask the grandmothers to pose as your flower ladies. 
The ring bearer should know how to hold the pillow and the thought of throwing it or holding it by the corner should not even cross his mind. If you really want the rings on the pillow, tie them nice and tight so little fingers cannot untie. However if you really care about your rings give them to best man and maid of honor so the young child doesn’t lose them. You could tie fake rings to the ring pillow. Also there’s lots of creative ways to not have them hold the rings. Let them carry a sign instead. 
Lastly if you have an animal act as your ring bearer, do not put your real rings on them and make sure they are walked beforehand.
Speeches – have someone review the speeches of maid of honor, best man, parents and whoever else is toasting. Each speech should be under 5 minutes, tops. Have someone you trust listen to each speech. Let them know what isn’t acceptable. 
Alcohol – This is a very exciting day for you and your guests; everyone is happy and wants to celebrate. However that doesn’t mean they should be hammered at your wedding after all its your wedding not spring break. People do stupid things when they are drunk. I have heard shameless stories that you would not believe. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to set a limits from the start. Speak to your event manager, Maitre’d or bartenders beforehand to insure that no one gets out of control and that they respect your event. 
You want your guests to remember how amazing your wedding was, how beautiful the bride looked, the ‘experience’ you’ve worked hard at planning, and how much fun they had; not some drunken person at the wedding. The last thing you want is someone throwing up, yelling, started an argument (let’s face it sometimes alcohol brings out the worst in people) and other ridiculous behaviors that they and you will regret at a later time. And most importantly brides and grooms this advice does not rule you out. It’s your wedding remember every moment and have a great time!
Allergies – If you or your fiancé have a specific allergy let your vendor(s) know. Let the caterer and bakery know of any food allergies, tell your florist about any relevant allergies as well. A florist once used lavender scented ribbons on a bouquet and the bride was allergic to lavender. Her hands were red and itchy all day, thank goodness for Photoshop and photographer was able to edit these any hand/ring shots.
Cellphone – give your cell to your maid of honor/best man. Everyone you love should be at your event, and most importantly your special someone is marrying you. Make sure you give them your undivided attention. Every hour try to take just 10 minutes to take it all in and just a minute to look at each other and say “I love you! We did it! You look beautiful/handsome.”
Also make sure guest turn off/silent their cellphones during your ceremony.
And please do not answer your cell while the officiant is in script.
Cake – A popular tradition is exchanging the first bite. However so most brides would flip their lids if their husband’s shoved cake in their face ruining make up, hair and possibly the dress. There is so much time that goes into getting all dolled up that they’d be furious. Make sure your significant other knows how much work has gone into getting beautified for them. If you don’t mind the mess then hey go for it just make sure you have a napkins near and be careful that if dodge you don’t bang your head on the table. Like I said, I’ve heard all sorts of stories.
Happy planning.
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